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Together is all that matters

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY FAVORITEST PERSON IN THE WORLD, MY HUBBY!!! Over the last couple of days I have made a startling, and somewhat upsetting, discovery. Hubs has these days where he feels 'blah'. These are usually called 'meh' days. I don't know why it took so long for me to make the connection that he could be depressed. I asked him if he could remember when these feelings started, and it took all the strength I had not to cry. 'Right after I moved in with you and realized I needed to grow up.' How is someone supposed to respond to that? My friends and Hubs have been telling me that it's not my fault, but it's hard not to feel that way. Especially when I'm already depressed for so many other reasons. But as upsetting as that info was, I think it'll turn out for the best. Now I'm looking at it as a project we can work on together. I know that he has a lot of the same crappy feelings I do, so we can fight it together. I know that

Spirituality and the 'Lynne is Totally Awesome' Weekend

I've been thinking and soul-searching and second-guessing and planning and hoping, as I always do. I need to stop thinking about the future and start focusing on today. I need to find ways to be happy just for today, so I can slowly grow out of this pessimistic lifestyle. It's only hurting and hindering me. There's been a thought in the back of my head for a long while - I need to reconnect with my inner spirituality. Obviously, since I'm not Christian, that can make it slightly more difficult. But I've found a large group of Pagans near me, and I think that's where I need to start. For the last 10+ years, I've known that being Pagan is right for me. But I don't have anyone to share that with, besides hubs. Growing up as a Jehovah's Witness, I was going to church 3 times a week. The last time I went to a religious gathering was 8 years ago, when I took my ex-stepson to an all-day Witness function. 8 years. I know that there are a lot (like mill

Birthday musings

Monday is my 25th birthday. I don't usually care about my birthday, except for my 16th, 18th and 21st. Other than those, there usually isn't anything exciting about them. But this one has been on my mind more than usual, for several reasons. When I was a teenager and would get upset about a break-up, my dad would say 'What you think you want now will be completely different when you are 25.' I used to wonder if it really would be as different as he made it sound, but it is. There were guys I thought I'd spend my life with, and now I wouldn't give them a second glance. There were plans I made for my career that I'm not interested in anymore. Ten years ago I was making plans to join the Army and go to West Point. Ten years ago I was skinny and hot and made all the boys at school drool. Ten years ago I thought life was going to go exactly the way I planned. Ten years ago I thought I would be done having children by 25. What have I learned since then? Life