Skip to main content

What's good about being child-less?

Infertility Awareness Week is coming up, and even though I typically write some post for it, I don't want to do that this year. What's my reasoning? I'm continually finding reasons why I should not be a mom. Health issues, money, overall life changes.... So this post is about why I'm OK not being a mom. I've written many posts about why I want to be a mom. This is the opposite side of the coin. It's surprising how your plans, ideas, dreams, change as times goes on. I remember my dad telling me that I should get too attached to a boy because my life would change by the time I was 25. What I wanted as a teenager wouldn't be what I wanted in my life after I got older.

He was right. I wanted to be done having kids by the time I was 25. Now, here I am, 26, married, no kids, great job, and the last year has really showed that I've changed. I don't cry about our infertility anymore. I can play with babies and not be upset that I'm going home without them. I'm sure my meds are helping me think clearer, and that's a really good thing.

So here are my reasons why I'm starting to be okay childless.
- Less money spent on food
- No giant birthdays or Christmases
- Ability to make crazy decisions, like moving into an efficiency to save money
- Less gas costs because we don't have to have a bigger car. We could even get a two-seater if we didn't have a dog lol
- Don't have to worry about finding a babysitter for date night
- we don't have to plan kid-friendly vacations
- No worries about getting kids to school on time, no dealing with their teachers.
- Less stress about having enough money
- No one tries to wake me up in the middle of the night
- Never have to worry about being in too much pain to take care of kids
- No need to stop medications in order to be preggo or to breastfeed
- No need to baby-proof our home
- More time and money to volunteer with charities
- Only have to worry about Hubs or I getting sick

I could make this list longer - but I think I've made my point. I still love babies and kids, I just don't need any of my own to be happy. James is still coming to terms with not being a parent anytime soon, but I didn't change overnight and neither will he. I've been working on changing my life to be happier in the present. It's been a long road, but I can finally feel some relief about our situation. Maybe we'll have kids in the future. Maybe we won't. I'm not completely over being child-less, but I'm not as weepy about it as I used to be.

Are you child-less? Did you choose to be, or did your situation force you to be? What have you done to change your attitude?









Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Thrifty Thursday - Breakfast for 4 - Less than $6.50!

This week's Thrifty Thursday find is a weekly special at Kroger. Please keep in mind that this offer is only good until 11:59:59 pm on Tuesday, Sept 1. If you purchase: 1 package of Tennessee Pride Pre-Cooked Sausage (or Turkey Sausage!) for $4.29 and 1 package of Kroger 18-count Grade A Large Eggs for $1.93 you get: a free bottle of Kroger Syrup (1.59), free Del Monte Fruit Cup (1.50), free package of De Wafelbakkers Waffles (1.00), free Kroger Salt and Pepper Shaker (1.19), and a free recyclable bag (1.00)! $12.50 worth of food and supplies to feed 4 for breakfast, and you only pay $6.22! Also, another great special running at Kroger, that combined with some great coupons, you are practically getting them for free! First, visit coupons.com and print these 4 coupons: Then go to Kroger and purchase the following (using your Kroger Rewards Card): 2 packages of Pillsbury Cresent Rolls    $2.98   (1.49 each) 2...
Post a Comment
Wait? There's more? >>

Exercise can be fun!

The weekend is always the best time for me to get my exercise, simply because I don't have to work. Although I love my Wii workout, that's really more for the middle of the week. I've started planning my weekends to include lots of physical activities, without the dread of actual exercise. Weight Watchers stresses that you don't use the term 'exercise', but rather 'activity'. I would agree. 'Exercise' can strike fear into the hearts of even the healthy, whereas 'activity' implies something fun. So here's what I have planned for the next few weekends as 'activity': Friday, Mar 25: Weeding My Garden Oh my goodness, the weeds have just taken over! I have 3 birdfeeders very close to the garden, so seeds get thrown in it all the time. The seeds have started growing plants, so I will be digging around tonight, pulling all of them out. Saturday, Mar 26: Fort Worth Zoo specifically for the new Museum of Living Art. Last time we ...
Post a Comment
Wait? There's more? >>

Vegetarian life update

I've made it through the first 3 days as a vegetarian, and I haven't missed meat at all. I know that the first few weeks are the hardest, and I'm pleased so far. I've been using quinoa and hemp seeds for proteins, and will be using nuts and beans as well. There are thousands of recipes online, and I've already tried some. I'm having to teach Hubs that it's okay for him to eat meat, and that I have no problem cooking it for him. I just don't add meat to my meal. It's surprisingly easy. We went to the grocery store on Saturday, and I walked out with no animal proteins or dairy in my bags. It was easy to ignore the meat. My PCOS group is doing an event called "Creating Goals with Soul", using Danielle LaPorte's Workbook O' Fire. Some of the girls are so excited to participate - and we could all use a little help sticking to our goals. My current health goals: - Continue my vegetarian lifestyle change - Eliminate my coffee consumpt...
Post a Comment
Wait? There's more? >>